Cognitive tools are allegories of the human mind. They symbolize the feelings at the moment when the appearances they illustrate become extimate and no more intimate. In the Winter 2023, after watching and listening to a couple of interviews and her intense debates of love, desire and sexuality on my personal computer, Mari Ruti was in my dream. I learned that she lost her life after a few months due to a cancer she had had for years, which I did not know when I indulged in her digital appearance. This article is a tribute to Mari Ruti of the felt experience both for the dreamer and the significant other in the light of my digital memories of Ruti, excerpts from her books and interviews.